Dear Fantastic Girl,
There is a little secret something so amazing, so miraculous and so wonderful that we should share it with everyone we know once we learn it. The secret is that there is nothing that others can do to really hurt us from the outside when we do not allow our own thoughts to hurt us on the inside. Once we take care of what is going on inside of our minds and our hearts and our souls, anything that tries to come at us from the outside simply can have no influence on our life.
It takes practice but we must just remember that we are not here to impress others, and others are not here to impress us. We only have control over our own lives and our own emotions, and once we make peace with ourselves and make friends with ourselves, and learn to protect all of the tender parts of our souls, there really is just not much that can shake us. We also learn that anyone who WANTS to hurt any part of us really does not belong in our life and because we are friends with our own self, we simply do not allow it.
So, beautiful friend, just like we are always learning, it starts with our own self. It starts within. When we do the soul work. We simply do not feel the need to change others or to put up with abusive behavior because we have learned to not let anything go on inside of us that would hurt us.
You are worth taking care of, protecting and being friends with, and peace comes when we do it for our own self.
You are so very loved.