Dear Overwhelmed Girl,
Do you have the completely irrational belief that so many of us have that you can be everything to everyone, especially to those that you love? Do you believe it’s your job to keep them all happy, to help them with everything that they are struggling with and to then go out and save the world in your free time?
Do you over commit and then beat yourself up when you under-deliver?
Are there a million things on your list that were really really important that you didn’t even get to because you got caught up in doing things that weren’t nearly AS important?
Ok now. Take a deep breath. Now take another one. One more.
Remember that you are wonderful. You are loved. And, phenomenal friend, amazing woman, you are a human being. You DO have limitations and it is totally ok for you to say no sometimes. Lots of times. In fact, it is essential.
When you don’t stop to rest, to think, to recharge, to remember, to restore, you end up grouchy, tired, uncreative, angry and numb to lots of life. You are a sparkling, beautiful girl and we need that sparkle. So STOP today and make a list. Prioritize it. Be realistic. Say no to at least 3 things today. Practice.
Say yes to yourself, to joy, to rest, to being 100% present to the things that matter most to you — instead of a tired and diluted version who has too much to do to ever do her best at ANYTHING. Don’t lose yourself while you are trying to be everything to everyone….
If at all possible, only have enough on your plate that you can do your best at everything you have to do. Your life will take on new meaning and happiness.
Just practice. This is a hard one, but so worth it. Hang in there. You are loved!