Dear Adored Girl,

When someone mistreats you, it is so important that you not allow it to measure your value, not let it soak in as something you “deserve,” or let it derail you.

Whether it is a few cruel words said in a moment of heat, or it is years of aggressive behavior, it is difficult to deal with. Often we let it deflate our confidence, we mull it over for days, and we sometimes allow the mistreatment to make us feel like we must not be valuable enough to be treated with kindness.

Please do not allow the lies to enter in, sweet friend. Please do not allow the mistreatment to go any further than the person who delivered it. Let them keep it, and do not receive it for yourself. Say kind things to yourself when it is over. Allow yourself to heal for a few minutes or a few days, and then make a promise that you will do whatever it takes to protect yourself from it happening again . . . always with love, always with truth, and always with bold strength and bravery.

You are worth protecting. Your heart is worth protecting. Your soul is worth protecting. You have the right to protect yourself.

You are so very loved.