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words as medicineWhat It Takes To Get Back Up
Finding yourself face-first on the ground, spitting out gravel, tasting blood, maybe even missing a tooth—it’s not fun. Whether literally or figuratively, when life knocks you to your knees and then kicks you flat for good measure, you’ve got some choices to make....
Read MoreWhen Will You Know Who You Are?
Some of us feel perpetually unfinished, halfway between where we were and where we want to end up. As disconcerting as it can be, I believe THIS is who we actually are—the perpetually unfinished, the constantly becoming, the never-dried-out lumps of clay. A quick...
Read MoreBattle-Worn Beauty
Dear Second-Half-of-Life Women, I saw a photo of myself today, in the kind of lighting that showed the new wrinkles, creases and gravitational pull that is part this chapter of life. And . . . I saw within myself, finally, the kind of beauty I have seen in other...
Read More10 Reasons to Stop Betraying Yourself Immediately
You already know this but—you’re stealing life from yourself when you betray your own path and turn your back on who you are. You don’t deserve that kind of treatment, friend. What are the ways you might be betraying yourself? There are many ways I’ve done it and...
Read MoreThe Messy Holiness of Uncertainty
Uncertainty sucks. Except when it doesn’t. Uncertainty is exhilarating and motivating. Except when it isn’t. Uncertainty has been my most complicated relationship - she's been both my best friend and my most annoying foe, persistently knocking at the door, where...
Read MoreWords as Weapons or Words as Medicine
Hello and welcome to my new website and my new blog. It’s strange and beautiful, after my long writing career, that I am here writing a FIRST blog post. But this is it. My first blog post on this brand new blog. And I want to tell you what this blog is for…what...
Read MoreSelf-Respect Is the New Self-Care
Okay, so I wrote that title because everyone is always saying THIS is the new THAT - and so I knew it would capture your attention. But the thing is…self-respect has ALWAYS been the way to self-care. Self-respect has ALWAYS been the way to self-love, too. Self-Care...
Read MoreGrowing Through What You Don’t Want To Be Going Through
This isn’t going to be full of a bunch of sweet quotations and 10 steps for how to think like a champion. Because this is not that. If you’re going through something that feels like it just might kill you, or has already killed off parts of you, this is for you. I...
Read MoreIf you’re feeling disappointed….
Dear Journeying Soul, Think about where you are now....all that you have learned and who you have become and where you are headed...due largely in part to some things NOT happening that you were sure that wanted to happen. It's amazing to look back at some things...
Read MoreYou came out stronger, better, wiser, more brave than before…remember?
Dear Wondering Soul, Is one of those days when you are wondering "WHY IS THIS HAPPENING?" and "HOW DID I GET HERE?" Just know for sure that you are going to get through it all just fine, because you have felt this way before, you have done hard things before, and...
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